Birth Debrief
'Trauma is not what happens to you.
It's what happens inside of you as a result of what happened to you.'
Gabor Mate
In our culture it is widely believed that trauma only involves the big stuff; the physical or sexual. But the truth is that trauma can be emotional as well. This emotional, or connection trauma, comes from childhood; the emotional hurt, neglect, disrespect and disconnect can contribute to feelings of trauma.
It is the emotional trauma that unconsciously controls our lives. It’s the way that we may not feel safe to express our feelings and thoughts, even to those close to us. It’s the way we disassociate from our world through our connection to technology. It’s the way we internally speak to ourselves to believe that we are not enough; not worthy enough.
Trauma can occur anytime we experience something that feels too much, too soon, too fast, too hurtful or for a little too long. It is what is held in the body and mind from living through this.
Birth trauma is a persons experience of interactions and/or events related to childbirth that cause overwhelming and distressing emotions and reactions. Birth trauma leads to short or long term negative impacts on wellbeing. The birth of a baby is also the birth of a mother, even if it’s not her first baby. How can we be expected to parent with full presence and capacity when our bodies are emotionally stuck in the birth?
This is what I’m here for. All of it.
This is labelled as ‘birth debriefing’, but the reality is that it’s life processing. The events and feelings that affect your birth will be affecting your life (whether you recognize that or not), and they will most often originate from your childhood experiences.
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I can be there to simply listen if that’s what you need. But the power I have in this space is feelings therapy. I listen to your story and together we identify the moments your body feels stuck. I work with you to go into your body to guide it to release these held feelings, because bodies hold emotions too. I believe that our mind can never truly move past our traumas without first connecting with the body's feelings.
Bring to me your conception journey, miscarriage, pregnancy, birth and or postpartum journey.
Nothing you bring is too big for my space.​​
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Each session is 90 minutes in an online space.
Single sessions can be accessed however more often than not more than one session is required. I offer a package of 3 sessions with optional voice noting between the sessions.
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Ready to be heard? To move past the big feelings held in your body?
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Emotional Birth Preparation sessions
Not to be confused with standard birth education.
These 90 minute 1:1 sessions work to explore and release the stories and fears you have around labour and birth.
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If your like most (all humans really), than you will be hoping for a good, not traumatic birth experience. Yes, you can intellectually learn the in and outs of labour and birth. And this is helpful.
But until your body is able to let go of the stories and fears it is holding then it wont be able to release the oxytocin (love hormone, critical for birth) to allow the progression or labour and birth.
Your body needs to feel safe so that it can birth the way it needs, not the way the system needs.
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What can be explored in a session:
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Releasing other peoples stories of labour and birth (particularly family's).
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Working with your fears in a safe, supported environment so that if the even were to unfold it would be familiar and generally less traumatic.
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Support to reconnect with your feminine energy and find your power.
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Guidance to be able to accept support and to be able to feel into who would feel safe in your birth space.
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Identifying what you need from the birth, not necessarily what you want.
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Pregnant with another baby and not sure if you need to be heard in your past experience or work with your next? Thats easy. You can't work for another birth until your experience of your past birth has been met with.
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Single sessions can be accessed however more often than not more than one session is required.
I offer a package of 3 sessions with optional voice noting between the sessions.